No matter how short or how long you’ve been in a relationship with someone, moving in together is such a huge step! It’s nothing to take lightly.
Moving in with someone can be the best decision you’ve ever made or the worst. But don’t worry; we’re here to help you. Are you taking the next step? Here’s what to say before moving in together!
Talk About Your Future
How long do you plan on staying with this person? Are they ready to commit to this next step with you? If it’s just a summer fling, moving in together is probably not the right step.
If you can genuinely see yourself being happy in your relationship for years to come, then go for it! But talk to your S.O. first. You don’t have to talk about marriage, starting a family, or anything too far into the future. Discuss your plans for the relationship at this time.
Discuss Your Fears
Are you worried that moving in together may cause a split? Tell your partner. The easiest way to suffer in silence is to keep your fears and thoughts to yourself.
Are you anxious about losing your independence? Totally normal. But it’s important to let your partner know so that you can work out a solution to help you both feel more comfortable. Chances are, they’re worried about the same thing. Remember that communication is key.
Set Expectations
Does your partner know you like to keep a clean bedroom? Or maybe you do laundry every day—which, when living with somebody else, you’ll need to consider monthly charges!
Living with someone doesn’t require that you spend 24/7 with them. Establish your boundaries early on, and communicate your preferences to avoid tension and future arguments.
Don’t forget to set up a routine together, so one doesn’t feel like they’re doing more work than the other!
Be Proactive
How do you settle disagreements? If this is your first time moving in with someone, you’ve probably never had to talk about rent, chores, and other apartment-related issues before. Be proactive and speak with your S.O. about these things beforehand to prevent future clashes.
Agree on Apartment Style
OK, now to the fun part. Moving in with someone means you get to mix your style with theirs. That’s a conversation all by itself!
As you go apartment hunting, you both will want to decide whether to focus on the floor plan vs. square footage. Can you afford to go bigger? If so, you may want to consider a bigger space so that you both can have room to live individually as well.
Once you’ve picked a spot, make the space unique to both of you. You may have to compromise (that goes for everything else in your relationship, too!)
Are you ready to take the next step? Know what to say before moving in together, so you both can have a balanced and harmonious relationship in your new casa!
