By Mona Loring
In Dump That Chump! Dr. Debra covers the complete gamut of the breakup process. She begins immediately by turning around the shameful experience of being with a chump and letting women know that they are in good company and that there are good reasons why smart, attractive, desirable women stay in dead-end relationships. Importantly, she provides hope that this no longer has to be the case. Dr. Debra endears herself to readers by sharing with them that not only does she have clinical expertise in how to dump a chump, but that she has had lots of personal experience as well and, thus, she truly "gets it."
Unlike many of the other self-help books in this genre which focus on a woman’s weaknesses and treat her like a victim, Dump That Chump highlights a woman’s strength, builds on her capacity to laugh and love and offers user-friendly tools to get rid of residual hurt and anger. Dr. Debra notes, "Dump That Chump will boost your confidence and teach you how to become the captain of your own ship, empowering you to hold out for a good match and never again settle for love from someone who doesn’t behave lovingly and… you can quickly thrive in a new relationship."
The remainder of the book covers the nine essential steps to get rid of Mr. Wrong once and for all and to pave the way for Mr. Right, drawing from her twenty-plus years of professional experience as well as her many years of personal experience. Each step offers numerous real-life examples, thought-provoking quizzes and simple exercises. Dr. Debra teaches readers how to "transform self-downers to self-uppers," to "stop pining for and romanticizing the chump" using such tools as the "stop sign" and the "memory box," to "move from mad and sad to glad," to give yourself nurturance, accept responsibility for your own part in the demise of the relationship (no matter how big or small!), and numerous tools to create a relationship vision that is fool-proof in attracting a worthy suitor the next time Cupid comes calling.
After one quick read, without even putting the suggestions into action, any woman who’s about to embark on a break-up or has already done the dirty deed will most definitely feel as though she has a powerful cheerleading squad on her team. Dr. Debra’s sensitivity and invaluable advice will no doubt leave the reader feeling understood, hopeful, and inspired.