Life Coach Tanya Ragbeer Helps in Life’s Most Difficult Times

Life is beautiful but there are times when it can get overwhelming and we need a little help. Life coaches or ‘transitional’ coaches can be instrumental in dealing with tough circumstances that we all face from time to time during the journey – whether that is a death of a loved one, financial stress, divorce, job loss, illness or emotional trauma.

When it comes time to seek professional help, life coach Tanya Ragbeer has both the life experience and the educational expertise to assist in overcoming life’s obstacles. As a Certified Professional Life Coach and Licensed Master Practitioner and Provisional Trainer of NLP, she helps people on a daily basis to overcome fears in order to progress to a new level of freedom and success.

As with any professional you are considering hiring, you want to see the success in their own life – but especially with counselors or life coaches. As renowned psychiatrist, Dr. Gabor Mate says, “The best way to help others heal is to first heal yourself.” Life Coach Tanya Ragbeer certainly walks the talk as she herself has overcome separation of family at an early age, divorce, loss of a child and a total career shift.

With over 20 years of corporate experience in the arts, finance, and hospitality industries, combined with her personal story of successful transitioning from trauma to triumph, life coach Tanya Ragbeer knows both the business world and the emotional human element. Utilizing her background and professional life coach experience, she is able to create liberating shifts and a plan of action for her clients in all areas of their lives.

LA’s the Place caught up with Tanya Ragbeer to hear her thoughts on dealing with major life changes.

LA’s The Place: Why is it important that people resolved their issues after going through a life-changing trauma or change?

Tanya Ragbeer: It is important that people resolve their issues after going through life-changing trauma or change because unresolved issues can weigh heavily on the psyche, and can have spiraling effects on relationships, life fulfillment, happiness, work, and social situations. The longer the issues remain unresolved, the more likely someone detaches from others and situations, becoming less engaging and possibly depressed or simply disinterested in life.

LATP: How has your life experiences helped you with what you do now as a [Soft Break] Transitional Coach?

TR: My life experiences as it relates to transition are many. I experienced my first major transition at age 19 when my parents, with good intentions, sent me away from my home in Jamaica to live with my brother in Wisconsin and to attend College. This experience was hugely traumatic for me. Not only was I in a different country, but I did not have any family there other than my brother, nor did I have any friends, initially, and I was living in a strange, cold place where I really didn’t want to be, but had no means of getting out.

My next huge transition came when I got divorced after 5 years of marriage (although we were separated for ½ the time), having been with the same partner for over 10 years. Immediately I became a single Mom and I didn’t even know how to pay a bill! I later remarried and had 2 other daughters and made my way into a very rewarding career.

Then my eldest daughter died in a tragic auto accident! Life took a major shift for me after that, and I found that I was having a difficult time finding happiness. The economy started shifting and the bank that I was working for fell into trouble and was consequently sold. After 15 years with them, I was laid off.

These experiences have taught me to be strong and self-reliant. I came to realize at a very young age that I had to be responsible for myself and that if I wanted to be successful in life this was the only way that I could achieve it. People respect self-reliance. Some are intimidated by it, but most people admire that quality in others.

LATP: What are the liabilities for someone if they don’t resolve their pain when moving forward?

TR: The liabilities for someone who doesn’t resolve their pain when moving forward is that they shut down a part of themselves that makes them feel alive, and makes them attractive to others.

LATP: What is your process for moving people through that?

TR: The process for moving people through that begins first with acknowledging that this is the source of the issue. On many occasions, we find that this is really only the trigger, and that the source may have actually occurred very early in childhood. Acknowledging and moving past the pain creates a huge breakthrough to opening up to embracing change.

LATP: What is the one most important thing people should remember when they start over?

TR: The most important thing to remember when you start over is that the ball is in your court. It is completely up to you and how much effort you put into playing the game, whether or not you come out a winner! Also remember: there is nothing wrong with asking for help so long as you remain in control of the steering wheel… After all, it’s your life!  As coach, I am my clients’ biggest advocate and cheerleader, and I partner with each individual to come up with a process and to implement a plan that works specifically for them.

LATP: Can people successfully start over if they are in the later years of their lives after a divorce?

TR: People can absolutely start over if they are in their later years of life after a divorce! Divorce, though very traumatic, is not the end of the world! All parties involved are usually affected by a divorce – even the extended family members. What makes the transition smoother, though, is the vision of a satisfactory outcome compounded by a good attitude, determination, resilience and self-confidence.

LATP: How does someone who has lost a lifelong career find another path?

TR: To find another path after a life-long career, people must plan! It is very difficult to make it on another path if we don’t take the time to anticipate the change (nothing is eternal), know what it is that we want, put a plan in place, and commit to it!

Life Coach Process 

During the coaching relationship, Coach Tanya breaks down any perceived barriers towards achieving their personal and professional goals in a highly confidential environment. As an intuitive listener, she hones in on not only to what is said, but also the emotional context behind the words.

With her “Velvet Steel” style, she is able to shift her client’s energy to a positive, creative, and productive place where clients can begin to see their lives more clearly to take effective action. Then an action plan is created with accountability for accomplishing the goals to realize lasting life improvements.

About Tanya Ragbeer

Tanya Ragbeer also holds these additional certifications: Licensed Provisional Trainer of NLP, Energy Leadership Index Master Practitioner, Social & Emotional Intelligence Coach and Weight Loss Master Coach.